Dating After 50 For Dummies by Pepper Schwartz

Author:Pepper Schwartz [Schwartz, Pepper]
Language: eng
Format: epub
ISBN: 9781118441329
Publisher: Wiley
Published: 2013-12-06T19:39:24+00:00

* * *

Becoming more than neighbors — or not

Think long and hard about getting involved with someone in your neighborhood, especially if you know the relationship isn't going to become a serious one. People may talk a good game about just wanting to have a good time or just wanting a “friends with benefits” situation, but they often don't mean it or aren't being honest with themselves. When dating gets sexual but not emotionally committed, the person who wants more but gets less can feel gravely insulted — even if the person promised not to be. So be careful what you get into, because getting out of it may be harder than you thought it would be. For example:

Ross had lost his wife to cancer after a long, heartbreaking illness. He really didn't feel like dating, but he was slightly depressed and wanted to head that off, so he went out from time to time even though his heart wasn't in it. He had a single neighbor down the hall who was quite solicitous, and they became friendly. She would come over for a few hours, and they'd have a glass of wine, talk, and watch some TV. He wasn't that attracted to her, but he liked her. One night she propositioned him. He was hesitant for a number of good reasons. He didn't see a future with this woman, and he didn't want any complications. She said she understood and felt the same way, but they could give each other some “comfort.” He was needy too, so, against his better judgment, he had sex with her one night. They both enjoyed the evening, but the next evening she was knocking on his door again. Ross restated his emotional situation and his need for no entanglements, and then she got verbally abusive, saying that he was heartless and that he led her on. She also wrote him a nasty note and pinned it on his door. In the end, he was forced to move.

Download

Copyright Disclaimer:
This site does not store any files on its server. We only index and link to content provided by other sites. Please contact the content providers to delete copyright contents if any and email us, we'll remove relevant links or contents immediately.